Common Sense With A Spiritual Aspect On Divorce! Part 7

Welcome back to all my followers that have taken time out to hopefully learn a few things that can help you in some way in the near future. We are going to finish off on how we interact with others when looking for a partner whilst on-line. Dating sites can also give you some emotional issues depending on where you are in your own state of mind. Please don’t enter into it thinking that it’s all plain sailing. It can be a lot easier if you are more in-tune with what’s going to happen, what to expect and how to deal with rejection as it will come in many forms, so be ready.

It’s like everything else in life in-that you have to approach it with the right attitude. Internet dating is something you will probably want to do alone, in private and on your own, there for you will not have the moral support you would normally have if you were out with your mates or in the company of others. If someone upsets you when you’re out then you have instant support. But if you were to experience a rude mail message, get insulted, be ignored or just not taken seriously then it’s actually more hurtful and emotional when you’re on-line because of the isolation of sitting behind your computer screen all alone.

Having said all that it can also be a great place to be and many do meet their ideal partners on line but it’s as if you have to learn new rules of conduct and the code of acceptance in others because not everyone is polite or considerate of other people’s feelings as I have mentioned previously. Just like in life (not all) but a lot of people are mostly selfish in their own pursuit of what it is they want and desire because they don’t consider others as if they were dealing with themselves, the spiritual aspect of common decency, respect and love of fellow humans gets forgotten.

Unless you have a common sense approach with a spiritual aspect then these people that I have just spoken about will keep you afraid, you may feel as if they are trying to push you down in order to elevate themselves. Do not let this happen at all, on or off line, remember who you are as an individual. Never think bad of yourself and most definitely never consider that you will always be alone. It’s not true, you will meet your ideal partner one way or another, and you just have to be able to recognise them when they arrive. Do you truly know what your ideal person will be like? How should they look? How will they react in public? How will they behave in private? What values should they have? Will they fit in around yours? Will you fit in around theirs? You have to know all these questions so that when your partner does show up that you will recognise them.

The clearer the picture you have in your heart and thoughts the quicker they will show up in your life. Make sure you understand exactly what it is you’re looking for. Otherwise you will just drift to and from without knowing who is actually passing you by. What did you learn about yourself from your last relationship? Have you changed any negatives into positives’? Can you be more giving? Are you willing to put more in to the relationship than you will want to take out? These are all so very relevant and important questions that I strongly suggest you give some thought.

Finally always put up a picture of yourself and make it very recent, do not try to fool others or yourself that you are ten years younger by putting up false pictures. The same goes for your profile don’t put stuff in there that you don’t really mean. It’s pointless to write what you don’t mean. Don’t imagine what it is you think they will want to read or hear. Be yourself and you will attract a person that likes you for who you actually are. If you fall into the trap of being some one your not then you will both be disappointed and it will never go anywhere. So just be honest and just be you!

All that I write about on the dating side of things are a great way to enjoy your surfing on-line when looking for a partner. Again it will boil down to your V/B’s (Values & Beliefs) The rest of your life can be as good or as bad as your own V/B’s. Change your thoughts and you change your life! I do hope you have enjoyed these last 7 posts as much as I have. If I have helped you in any sort of way then it would be a great inspiration for me to hear this from you. I am always available for help and you can always find me at my website. Have fun be happy and always help others when you can.

All my love……………Brian.

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