Simple Divorce Advice

By Hally Rhiannon-Nammu

When a relationship ends it can have detrimental affects on how you see yourself within your environment. This can include attending social functions to even get out of the house to go to a dance class. This is because you are so used to having been with someone it is as though you are all of a sudden incomplete. This feeling brings this sense that you cannot do the things you would normally do because you are now on your own.

Society has its own pressures and being single, particularly over a certain age, can be challenging. Now add in the emotion of relationship that has ended and it is a recipe for deciding to stay at home a little too much. It is possible that you start telling yourself that you are lesser than anyone else because you don’t have a partner. This can then be followed by more negative self-talk to the point that you feel unworthy to be at any social engagement or place where there is more than you there.

If this wasn’t enough, because you had shared friends during the relationship this can be divided and you find those that you were once very close to no longer associate with you. All of a sudden it feels as though you have lost everyone and everything in your life because of the dissolution of the relationship. It can be an extremely isolating time.

Whilst this may seem horrific, it is also the perfect opportunity to taste freedom your way. It enables you to do the things you may have put off because you were in a relationship or because your friends were not into what you liked and you consequently had compromised on this.

Consider the analogy of a newly born bird where the wings are a little weightless and ineffective. The bird flaps a lot but doesn’t really get anywhere. However, in a matter of weeks, even days in some circumstances, the little bird all of sudden can stretch its wings out wide. Its mother decides to push it out of the nest noticing it is ready to experience life first hand. As the little bird falls it starts madly flapping and flapping. Then right before it hits the ground it takes off and flies high above the nest, above the trees and it looks down and notices how beautiful everything is. The little bird looks ahead and can see this amazing path that is unfolding with each flap of the wings. Its heart beats faster and faster, not from the exertion of the wings rather from the excitement of being free and being able to experience all the things it could not see from the nest.

You are like this bird. It is easy for our perception to become closed because of the environment that we chose to live in. This however, doesn’t mean that it cannot be expanded into something even better, even more exciting and potentially different, if you so choose.

Take a step into your life, flap your wings of freedom and be open to all the aspects of yourself you are yet to experience – perfectly complete by being you.

Hally Rhiannon-Nammu
Power Life Coach / Spiritual Healer of Creative Balance
International Author / Speaker
(www.creativebalance.com.au)

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