Simple Divorce Advice

Getting your head around the end of your marriage and the life you know is really stressful. Throw in divorce proceedings that are not cordial, take a long time, don’t go anywhere and generally make the situation worse and stress is going to take its toll on your health, sleeping, mood, ability to work and every other area in your life.

Coping with the stress of your divorce will go a long way to helping you make the right decisions for you and your family as they will be made from a calmer sensible stand point not from an emotional place that depends on how your ex behaved the day or week before.

There are statistics that provide evidence that people who go through divorce have more health issues than those who don’t. It is the stress of the divorce and not paying attention to health issues while going through the divorce and rebuilding your life that causes these health issues. These health issues do not go away with a new relationship, they are permanent changes.

Paying extra attention to your stress levels and learning new ways to cope is the best and easiest ways to cope.

Below are seven stress busters for you to use:

1. Get enough sleep. If you are having trouble sleeping then figure out why and when. Is it that you cannot get to sleep, wake through the night or only seem to need a few hours instead of the usual seven or eight? Divorce plays havoc with your mind and you keep going over things, it is learning to switch off and let your mind calm enough for it to sleep for the right amount of time. Before you head off to the doctor for pills try all the old remedies such as milk and honey before bed, being warm and comfortable, going to bed early. There is strong evidence that says if you want to sleep at night then you must get up at the same early time in the morning, this sets your physical clock, and exercise in the morning helps this also. There have been times in my life when sleep has been difficult and my own trick is to bore myself to sleep. I watch the same movie or listen to the same music every night. I keep the sound at just audible which cuts in on my own thoughts and after a night or two since I know what is going to happen and can’t think my mind and body just goes to sleep. I don’t know what the experts would say but it has worked for me and others I know so it is worth a try.

2. Eat properly. It is very easy to forget to eat properly when you are under stress especially if you have less time or are responsible for your own meals for the first time in years. Breakfast, lunch and dinner are all important, especially breakfast. There is no reason for not knowing the right foods to eat or even how to make them. If you can find this page on the internet then you can find everything you need to on having a good diet and eating healthy food. The risks of not eating correctly start with mal nourishing your body which makes everything slower and can cause major symptoms and problems depending on what you are not getting enough of. High blood sugar is one of the commonest problems amongst people with a lot of stress. A chocolate bar for instant energy starts a blood sugar reaction that over time, if this becomes a habit, will lead to diabetes and heart disease. Looking after your diet also has other benefits, it helps you move forward by taking control of something important that you can control. Do not wait for everything to be settled or when you have put on a hundred pounds to take control of what is your responsibility.

3. Exercise. You must keep your body moving. Exercise is one of the best ways to alleviate stress. When you work out you produce endorphins, the calming hormones everyone talks about. It is not whether you should exercise but what exercise to do that you need to concentrate on now. If you already have a workout regime keep it up, don’t let sadness or the divorce stop you doing what you have always done. If you can no longer afford gym workouts, then start doing workouts by yourself or with a friend in some place free like the park or at home. The benefits of exercise cannot be underestimated and if you have a meeting, phone call or decision you are not looking forward to then go for a walk, jog, swim or whatever beforehand. This will get your head straight, your stress hormones in check so you can keep your cool and cope with everything thrown your way.

There are many ways to relieve your stress levels but concentrating on these 3 fundamentals is a great start. Give yourself a mantra, ‘I sleep, I eat, I exercise’ and then I do everything else.

There are no excuses to not look after yourself no matter what you think you can come up with. There is a lot of stress that comes from divorce and separation so do not add to it by ignoring the 3 things fundamental to stress relief.

Originally posted: The 3 Best Ways To Deal With Divorce Stress

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