Simple Divorce Advice

So much goes on within a relationship; within a marriage that those on the outside often cannot begin to imagine what life is like. We become so caught up on what we show our friends and family that it is easy to forget, if only briefly, what is really going on.

Then it is as though everything falls apart all at once. Even though on some level it really is not a surprise, you had however, convinced yourself that it was your imagination, you were over-reacting or being too emotional when, once everything came to a head, was and had been clear for some time.

This does not diminish the affect this has on you; the hurt, the betrayal and dumbfounding shock that it actually happened. We tell ourselves that this will never happen again, that you will never be caught out like this again.

Then there is a part of you that on some level enabled these turn of events to take place. You may yell and scream denial, however, in those moments where you are honest with yourself you know you were not happy and pretending did not make it right.

The hard part is making peace with yourself about it, particularly if you blame yourself for not doing more. One thing to remember is that there are two people responsible and active in a marriage. Whilst one may instigate action it does not mean the other was not present on some level.

Whilst this does not condone certain behaviours, it is more an opportunity to reflect your role and whether this was being portrayed the way you would have wanted it to be.

Was it you or the role that you were playing? If it was the role you were playing, then where were you?

Realising and accepting that you have the power to create change is liberating and empowering. It provides a sense of internal control and enables you to live congruently to you, irrelevant of what happens.

There is a difference between blaming yourself and taking responsibility of your life and actions. Something’s are out of our control however, choose to take back control of you, who you are and who you are being, be it in a relationship or on your own.

Simply, it comes down to this, for whatever reason you find yourself on the other side of marriage you have the power to move forward, to give yourself the permission to create what you want for yourself.

It doesn’t cost anything other than being open to the possibility that being you provides you with all the control, power and strength that you will ever need.

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