It is a sad state of affairs when the end of a marriage comes down to how fast it can be dissolved through a legal system that only makes it difficult and sucks dry the coffers of the family going through divorce.
Why is there an average 26 month period? This is obviously the average figure when the legal system is adhered to. But why not get rid of the monotonous steps and actually help the people agree on separation terms.
Divorce is a negotiation, simple.
As the marriage dissolves and love slips away, the emotions left are anger, fear and dread. Legal battles rage because of these feelings. The practical legal system helps in no way to prepare divorcees for post settlement life. The battle rages about settlement and what you are entitled to. People are left emotionally drained with absolutely no idea how to go forward. This is a time when huge financial mistakes are made.
A divorce is the ending of a marriage, the settlement of three different legal areas and the beginning of life as a single person. This last area is never looked at or talked about. Our divorce system is centred around the legal issues, or those that solicitors and their counterparts can handle. It does not acknowledge the needs of the divorcees to be equiped to set up for a new life. How can you make the right decisions when for the last three years you have been led by the nose through a system that you do not understand, is not laid out for the average Joe to understand, and you feel as if all control was taken away?
People need to be in control of their divorces. They need to understand the consequences of any actions taken. They need to be held accountable for bad behaviour, they need to have a better understanding of their legal situation.
They need to understand that “their rights” and “what is right” is not always the same.
If you are going through divorce remember at all times that it is you that makes the decisions and it is you that has to live with the consequences of those decisions.
Choose wisely, and think everything through before you make decisions.
Further readings:
Divorce Emotions: Click here!
Anger management, Click here!
Positive Attitude, Click here!
Source: The Sad State of Divorce.
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