Simple Divorce Advice

Poor Tiger Woods, he can’t cut a break, now he has reportedly compared the breakdown of his marriage with the death of his father.

According to The Sun, Tiger spoke about both experiences as though they were equal.

He said yesterday: “There are times in one’s life when things get put into perspective. One being when my father passed and another what I’ve been going through lately.”

Be careful Tiger, I know the backlash that comes from that sort of comparison. I did it once and received my first ever hate mail. It wasn’t just mail that disagreed with what I said in a civilized and thoughtful way. It was scary mail that was really aggressive.

I have been through death and I have been through divorce. My divorce was not as severe as the deaths I have been through but for some people this isn’t so.

Imagine you live in your perfect relationship; you are totally committed to your partner and think you will be with each other for ever. Then your husband/wife walks in one day and simply says it is over, they are not happy and they are leaving. It happens all the time.

Is it so different from your darling dying. They are both gone. Of course, when your spouse dies you know you are loved even though they are gone, when they leave you they are gone and you have to deal with the fact that they do not love you and that your relationship has been a lie for who knows how long.

When people die, they leave behind their belongings to their spouse, they do not take half of them. If you are a widow/er you can still plan your time around your family, xmas is still xmas but when there is divorce you may well have to share holidays or miss out on them altogether.

Some people are relieved when they leave their marriages, some sad but resigned and others totally devastated. Tiger is obviously one of the latter. He was stupid, no doubt, probably never thought he would be caught, and maybe even thought he was above normal rules. Who knows, and it is irrelevant to the fact that he is suffering now.

In my opinion no one has the right to tell anyone else how much they are suffering or how much they should suffer. Our feelings are our own and our experiences also.

Divorce is every bit as painful as death for some people. They lose their loved one, they also lose their belongings, their friends, their children, and often their lives.
If Tiger is feeling like this then my heart goes out to him even if he did muck it all up himself.

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