Simple Divorce Advice

I often come across websites and forum comments that take divorce and instead of keeping it an issue between a divorcing couple turn it into a divide between men and women.

There are reasons why the divide is there, such as men’s lobbies and women’s lobbies discussing legal issues. When laws are made they are supposed to be for the benefit of all. Please, don’t write me telling how unfair the law is, that is a separate issue, and law makers are people influenced by whoever is in their ear at the moment.

A romance is between two people, an engagement and marriage is between two people and a separation and divorce should remain between two people. But suddenly it seems that it turns into a battle of the sexes. People suddenly hate the opposite sex and blame all men or all women for their problems.

I hate to be the one to tell you but if you are going through a separation and divorce then you have been a major player in the break down. Take responsibility for your part in the break up and do not blame others, including the opposite sex.

And please never forget that you and your spouse set the rules for your marriage. Blaming friends, family or even children for your relationship issues only means that you do not take responsibility for allowing yourself to be in a partnership that was unsatisfactory to one or both of you.

The more effort you put into disliking the opposite sex the less likely you will move forward easily.

How are you going to date again, trust again and have a permanent relationship again that will satisfy?

After a marriage has broken up is the time to do a lot of soul searching, looking at yourself and the choices you made in picking your partner and behaving in your marriage to unfortunately have it end in divorce.
Women are women, men are men. And the world doesn’t work for either if we are at war.

If you are one of the anti opposite sex players then STOP and go spend some time with the opposite sex, a lot of them. You will find that there are some you like, some you can’t stand probably proportionate to how you feel about your own sex.

It is fear, anger, resentment and the myriad of emotions divorce entails; habits and pattern learnt over a life time that makes people behave badly, not their sex.

Excerpt from: Men verse Women in Divorce

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