Simple Divorce Advice

Men initiate divorce in only about 32% of cases. And the 68% of men that are not the initiator are often taken by surprise.

I do not believe in the blame game and I think everyone must take responsibility for their actions and their lives, including the breakdown of their marriage and the fact that they married that certain person in the first place.

There is usually one person in the marriage that comes to the decision to separate before the other person. The initiator has usually gone through many of the emotional states that are common to divorce before the split; anger, sorrow, fear, frustration and guilt to name a few.

If there are 68% of men who do not realize there is something wrong in their marriage even with their partner displaying the above emotions then I think it is very telling of the mess of our society not just these marriages.

We have comedies on every channel on television every night with women being unhappy with their husband and jokes being made out of it. Misery may love company but this is ridiculous, misery has turned into humor.

We are missing the cues given to us in our relationships because popular culture tells us it is funny when a woman complains. The fact is that unhappy relationship is not funny but the writers and producers of shows realize that people love to be justified and if you give them a little worse than they have they’ll eat it up.

This issue spreads into real life, I sit at dinner parties and listen to conversations that echo the ‘women moan because they’re women’ sentiment that abounds in our society. All the men laugh and the women roll their eyes at the men’s non understanding. The thing is it really is not funny, it is the breakdown of communication between a couple and instead of trying to get to some middle ground of understanding, the whole issue is made into a joke because that is how we, as a society, view these marriage issues.

The trouble with this is that men do not tend to take their wives complaints seriously and real communication and management of the issues never happens.

So, when the split arrives the poor man is completely taken by surprise.

If you are one of these men, do yourself the favor of having a very deep look at your behavior during your marriage. And see if you are guilty of this, not because you can reverse things now but so you can have a fulfilling loving relationship next time round that will keep on going and getting stronger and more rewarding.

Source: Is Popular Culture At Fault!

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