by David Karal
David Karal is my nephew and as a 23 year old who has seen his parents disagree about practically everything for the last ten years has emerged as one of the most balanced young men I know, here is his A –Z to others who find themselves as unwitting participants of divorce.
Avoid all confrontation
Bombardment is not your friend
Cope, things WILL get better.
Dedicate yourself to your own individual projects.
Every situation is different, be kind in your interpretation.
Find an outlet to feel good about yourself.
Grief is natural, give yourself time to feel.
Handle your day to day, the situation isn’t yours to own or understand.
Include your perspective if you feel a situation to be too overwhelming
Justify your feelings, as the situation is never easy.
Keep on going, there is no light at the end of the tunnel unless one walks.
Love yourself.
Manage as best you can but don’t defeat yourself for not.
No one really understands what is occurring during the situation so don’t be hard on yourself for not either.
Oppose any idea that is not your own, you have the right to feel.
Promise yourself you will not let this defeat you
Quit beating yourself up
Resist the temptation to choose sides, as the conflict of your parents is not your battle.
Sides, everyone got one and all are subjective.
Treat yourself well.
Understand that divorce is a process and like all processes they result and then rest.
Vigilance is key, not on the situations occurring but on your own emotional state.
Willpower is key.
X. There is no need to manipulate the English language to fit a set of rules. X is always and will always be Xylophone.
Your parents are human. It’s a hard fact.
Zen, find your own inner.
Originally posted: A –Z of Being A Divorce Child
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My husband is a only child from a divorced family. I just showed him this list and he that it was good – especially X