Simple Divorce Advice

Starting a new life after divorce can be daunting. Your social circle may have decreased which is quite normal. Always remember to look after yourself and follow the tips below to get you moving again.

1. Look after yourself. Your personal hygiene and daily routines are really important. They are a measure of how you feel about yourself, and how you choose to care for yourself. These daily or weekly routines, such as, shaving, washing, dyeing hair, waxing, cleansing, nail care, etc are now more than ever an important indicator of your mental wellness. People with low self esteem or a depressive attitude tend to let these things go thus making it harder for themselves to get out and make a new life.

2. Eat Well. The old saying ‘you are what you eat’ should be stamped on the front of every refrigerator sold (in my opinion). If you eat fresh healthy foods, you will become fresh and healthy. If you eat fried, processed dead foods you will look it as well. If you need to learn about nutrition, do it, there is no excuse these days with the internet and television shows explaining healthy eating.

3. Dress well. Always dress well. When you leave your home always expect to run into someone important that you want to impress. If you want to project yourself in a certain way then always dress appropriately. You will find it second nature after a while to always dress in your own manner. Being comfortable in your clothes is the same as being comfortable in your skin, to be relaxed in society you need to know who you are and then show the world.

4. Exercise. It goes without saying that you need to exercise every day. A walk first thing in the morning will get the endorphins flowing, the metabolism working and make you feel great. There is really no excuse not to take the time to exercise if you are not getting enough due to work or other commitments. Humans were made to move and we work better with movement. Exercise is one of the easiest ways to elevate mood and bring on positive feelings.

5. Create an extra income stream. If money is worrying you then do something about it. Create a second income stream. How you are going to do this is entirely up to you. You may want to think about learning a new skill that you can utilize as a second income. You may simply get a second part time job. You may look at the myriad of home based business ideas there are available today. The only way to get rid of that money worry is to do something about it.

6. Have a routine. Routine is a really important part of life. Your routine helps define you as a person and helps create the time you need to achieve your goals. Routines work because you know when things are going to happen and when you have free time. If you let life happen then you may end up sitting in front of the television for hours every night. If you have a routine you may watch one hour of television in the evening and then turn it off to complete other tasks that are part of your routine.

7. Do not procrastinate. Procrastination is the enemy of making a new life. It is action that will be your friend here. I believe in ‘Fairy Steps’, if things feel enormous then one tiny step after another in the direction you want to go will get you there. Try to start each day with the task you least want to do. This will get rid of any nagging feeling you have about the task that will otherwise take your energy and leave you feeling down.

8. Go out. Leave your comfort zone as often as you can. Go out, meet new people, say ‘yes’ to invitations, join clubs, chat with people in the supermarket line, make others feel good. Learning to be single and comfortable can be hard after being part of a couple and defining yourself that way. You now need to define yourself as a single entity that is just as interesting and has just as much to give as you did when you were part of the couple.

Make these seven tips a part of your life and start to enjoy being the person you want to be. One final note, it is time to ignore and forget any put downs, insults or malign smears that your ex may have said and that have affected you. The end of a marriage can become really nasty and the insults are always meant to hurt deeply and are usually aimed at the most sensitive deep insecurities we have. Remember, when someone is insulting like that they are really hurting themselves, happy people do not get cruel. Put it aside, or simple walk over each criticism by proving you are bigger and better.

Originally posted: 8 Divorce Advice Tips

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