5 Common Reasons for Divorce

These 5 common reasons for divorce, Infidelity, Growing Apart, Abuse, Finances and Sex, are really the end process of a marriage in trouble. In many places there needs to be a reason given for divorce, so if you do not live in a ‘no blame divorce’ area, one or both of you will need to name a reason for the divorce. The reasons listed below are among the most popular.

Infidelity

In the United States Infidelity is the cause for a third of divorces, which works out to be the most common reason for divorce. Infidelity can be a reaction to sexual boredom, anger or resentment towards your spouse. It could be a one night stand, a drunken mistake, or an ongoing affair, any way you spin it if your spouse was unfaithful and you cannot forgive then divorce follows. Interestingly, affairs usually ensue from marriages that are breaking down for other reasons, the affair is simply the last straw or an excuse to call the marriage over.

Growing Apart

Expectations of a marriage can be different for individuals and may differ more as time goes by. Growing apart is a major cause of divorce. As life brings new experiences, wants and needs change so couples can drift apart and no longer want the same things or to live in the same way or share the same interests or beliefs. Even though it may seem like a good idea to separate, growing apart and eventual divorce can cause a lot of resentment and disappointment as expectations are not met.

Abuse

Abuse towards anyone for any reason is unacceptable, it should not be tolerated. Whether the abuse is physical, psychological, or emotional the detrimental effect each of them have are clear indications that you need to get out and get out fast; no one should make you feel like less of a person. Abuse is a logical reason for divorce, as it should be, you have the right to be happy and feel safe, and anyone who says/does otherwise isn’t worthy of your love. Abuse is Abuse; the actions by the abuser cannot be defended.

Finances

When people have different ideas on finance and have not discussed how money will be used, saved, invested etc there will be tension. When there isn’t enough money to go around, problems start to arise, spouses have different ideas of what expenses are priorities and they both want to be right. Economic strain is a heavy burden, eventually if debt accumulates, it can be overwhelming to deal with and emotions run high. Debt does not have to be the only reason for a marriage to breakup, if one partner is overly cautious or miserly or if one partner is a spend thrift with no thought to saving, silly investing techniques, lending to the wrong people, borrowing to much, all can lead one partner to leave a marriage when their spouses financial dealings become too much to handle.

Sex

Sex can come between couples at any time in a relationship. Frequency is a major sexual problem with couples, especially when children arrive and lives become hectic. As relationships leave behind the first onslaught of love and lust and eventually settle into long term familiarity the meaning of sex can change for one or both partners leaving the other partner wondering what has changed and why. Sexual issues if not dealt with appropriately can cause resentment and become a major wedge in a marriage.

The reasons for marriage breakdown and eventual divorce are as varied as the spouses themselves, how people get to the point of divorce is the story of their life together and although the reason stated may sound similar to many others, in reality the road to separation and divorce has been an individual journey. The reasons people divorce sound common but each and every one has been a painful process for the spouses themselves.

Jennifer Chang works with SimpleDivorceAdvice.com as a dating expert and authority on women’s issues. She also is one of the contributors who wrote Win Your Divorce – The Ultimate Workbook – available from Simple Divorce Advice.com, Click Here.