9 Tips To Get Yourself Through Divorce

get through divorce Feeling exhausted while going through divorce is not unusual, especially after the emotionally charged holiday season. Now is the time to make some changes to your lifestyle and recharge your batteries, to leave you feeling healthier, happier and even a bit hotter.

Take a look at these tweaks to get you back on the happy track:

• Smile at Strangers. This s one of the easiest ways there is to feel good. Every time you are on the street or in public smile at all the strangers you make eye contact with. This is a simple exercise in giving and giving always makes you feel better. It doesn’t cost you anything and if you smile at a stranger then maybe they will do the same. Try it; turn it into your own little social experiment.

• Try to laugh at least once a day. A good giggle has many health benefits such as lowering blood pressure, releasing feel good hormones and even increasing muscle flexibility. A snigger won’t do, it must be a real laugh so put this on your to do list and find people who make you really laugh. Listen to funny drive time radio in the car, chat with the friend who always has the funny story or listen to CD’s of your favorite comedians. The more you practice laughing the easier it will become.

• Read a Good Book. Reading stimulates the brain and is thought to prevent Alzheimer’s disease. Get yourself into a reading habit of at least one hour a day. And choose books that will make you feel good about yourself and your future. At this time it maybe self help books, funny books or subjects you are interested in. Try to leave the sad, self absorbed biographies and novels alone for the time being.

• Stop Watching The Television. There is more than enough written and known about watching too much television. Turn it off or give yourself a time limit. There are many other things you can be doing that will make you feel better than lying in front of the television.

• Get a Morning Ritual. If you do not jump out of bed in the morning then you need to get yourself a regular morning routine to follow, to promote health and action. Morning rituals can include exercise first thing to get the endorphins flowing, spending some time in the sun to soak up some much needed vitamin D (very good for bones and muscles), the sun is also very good as a mood elevator. Eat a healthy meal to start each day off looking after your health. There is no excuse to not have your own morning ritual, get up earlier and start tomorrow. Prepare the night before so there are no excuses.

• Sleep Properly. Sleep is really important when going through a divorce and if you are not getting enough or are sleeping too much then now is the time to do something about it. If you are sleeping to much, get a big alarm clock and have specific tasks, such as the morning ritual, to get you out of bed and active. If you are not sleeping enough you may need to find solutions that even include a visit to your doctor if it is really bad. Before you try pills, have a go at some of these natural sleep remedies. A few drops of Lavender oil on your pillow will work wonders, hot milk and honey (it actually contains chemicals that bring on sleep) and an absolute sure one to put you to sleep if your brain just will not turn off is to listen to a CD made for the purpose, there are many relaxation CD’s available.

• Leave Your Environment. At least once a week get out of your comfort zone and go and do something new. It need not be expensive or cost anything at all. Explore your city with the kids; go to new areas or parks; visit the museums or art galleries: read the ‘what’s on’ section of your paper; check out groups or clubs that you always wanted to know about. Getting out and meeting people or just putting yourself in new situations will bring about increased self confidence.

• Make an Effort to Meet New People. It can be really difficult when going through divorce on the social scene. Sometimes friend do not know how to treat you and often you are left out of social gathering if you have been in a couples set. This can be really hurtful and off putting. Do not get upset, people cope with the tools they have and if they cannot cope then you will have to accept that. You can get out and meet new people and make new friends who will only know you as single. When meeting new people don’t go on about your divorce, be the person you want to be, nobody is interested in a whiner.

• Exercise, Of Course! This list was never going to be complete without exercise. Exercise makes you strong, healthy, less stressed and less anxious, you need to exercise. And you need to exercise everyday at this time. You may be going to the gym three times a week for a big workout and think that is enough. It isn’t. Get up and go for a walk every day, at least. Your exercise can of course, be incorporated into some of the points above.

• Eat Well. Good nutrition is vital for good health. End of story. If you do not know how to provide yourself with good nutrition, then now is the time to learn. There is abundant material on the internet and in the local mall to get your started. There are cooking classes, health centres, nutritionists, health and cook books, and so much more. What there is not is any excuse to not eat well.

Follow these ten simple tweaks to your life style and you will find that you are starting to feel much better in yourself and your ability to cope with the divorce process is increased.

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