Simple Divorce Advice

By: Marilyn Rand, Ph.D., MFCC

This person may reflect your fondest childhood memories and your imaginative childhood dreams of a marvellous future. In your twenties, life ahead seems easily shaped according to your wishes. Early adult relationships are usually hopeful and idealistic. Nothing seems out of reach. The right amount of effort and determination will build a life ahead; or so it seems.

In early adulthood, the relationships you are drawn to form are often warm, reciprocal and romantic. The other person in your life is seen as having fabulous qualities; a person capable of creating a fulfilling relationship and a complete life with you. In fact, the person may be seen from an unusually positive point of view. Negative traits in the other person are minimized, denied or described as something that can be overcome. Friends and family may be welcoming and not too critical of these early adult relationships.

Pride in the relationship and pride in the chosen person is one foundation of your early adult life experience. Pride may be shown in physical appearance, athletic prowess, academic accomplishments, financial independence or early career success. Often, there is shared pride in the development of budding adult roles as a spouse or parent. These sources of pride are openly shared within the relationship and with important others.

In the early adult years, pride in relation to oneself, one’s family and one’s career can be a stabilizing force for the years to come. Pride is acknowledged through personal comments, conversation and non-verbal communication. Pride that is hidden or withheld can be a source of damage to the relationship. Similarly, pride that is boastful or one-sided can tip the relationship and undermine a natural source of emotional support.

Unseen or unheard confirmation of the sources of pride may cause an early adult relationship to falter. Idealism and hope need a source of sustenance and strive to be heard. Idealism thrives in a public forum. Shared hopes, shared ideals and shared dreams are normal, important parts of the early adult years.

The right person in your twenties supports the best of your childhood aspirations and shares your positive adult view of the world. This person can share your life while actively helping to support a wonderful future. This person is willing to put in effort, determination and motivation to build a solid foundation for the relationship. Over time, a solid foundation has the capacity to evolve in many positive ways. The right person for you in your twenties is the cornerstone of an extremely significant relationship over time; a relationship to nurture and understand as you both mature in the years ahead.

Source: Finding The Right Person In Your Twenties Can Be Wonderful

Popularity: 4% [

If you’re new here, you may want to subscribe to my RSS feed. Thanks for visiting!